Shop Local Rochester: Gifts for Friends { And for You! }

{ Give great gifts. And make them look great! Gift box from Sweet Poison Cupcake. }

SAVE MONEY

one for you

SHOP LOCAL

{ one for me, too. }

LOOK GOOD, FEEL GOOD

#shoplocalroc

{ Between sales, festivals + shows, dope merch, and increased exposure to quality stores + boutiques … shopping local for the holidays is hard! … On your conscience. When shopping local, I say: grab 1 for your family or friend + (at least) 1 for you, too. With these 3 spots – you can. }

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Bath + Body – from The Alternative Fair!

{ Compliments of Shandi Rine. }

Pssst. Did you know there’s a secret to buying the best gifts? It’s the Won’t-Buy-It-For-Myself factor. And it’s powerful! Check it:

  • Ever see something while shopping for yourself + think – YES. But you never buy it.
  • Even better, you say – That’d be a perfect gift for me! { You know you have. }

The It Factor. That’s exactly what these boutiques + artisan have and are. The pieces + items that your family + friends always want, but never buy. Think about it:

  • You find a $20 necklace but don’t want to shell-out the fancy cocktail money? You say – Maybe next time.
  • You gravitate toward seasonal accessories + think – I love it! But what if I don’t wear it next year?
  • What about the piece that enhances your surroundings? – It’s not something I need, you say.

ssshh:
this is what makes a gift giver great!

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#ShopLocal. Cardigan – Peppermint. Tank – Second Storie. Jewelry – Fahsye, The Knotty Owl, Erica Bello.

The It Factor is the Won’t-Buy-It-For-Myself factor. And that’s what makes a gift giver great! When you can identify that 1 gift a friend really loves, but would never buy herself – buy it. Trickiest thing? Not buying one for yourself, too!

fear not!
guilt-free shopping

At these 3 #ShopLocal spots in #Roc – you will find It factor gifts. Great thing? They’re so affordable … you buy something for you, too! { Guilt. Free. }

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Prismatic Gardens by Sigriet Ferrer.

Gifts for Friends { And for You! }

Prismatic GardensOwned by Sigriet Ferrer. Sold at Peppermint, pop-up shops, + online at Etsy!

WHY I LOVE

  • I kill plants. { Eek! } These are EASY to care for.
  • I’m bad at decorating. { Yikes. } These are GORGEOUS.
  • I dig the vibe. { Yes. } Prismatic Gardens says – “A natural synergy within elements.”

WHY FRIENDS LOVE

  • They want plants. { But won’t buy them. }
  • THEY COME WITH DINOSAURS! { Enchanting + one-of-a-kind. }
  • It’s not another bamboo plant. { Be original. }

WHY YOU LOVE

  • They’re flipping adorable. { Look at those little buds. }
  • Sir Rocha SaysYou can hang rings on them! { Double-duty. }
  • LOW MAINTENANCE. { Mine doesn’t even ever have to be watered! }
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My Collection. Box + Cupcake ring are handmade!

Sweet Poison CupcakeOwned by Tempest Paige. Handmade goods! Store at Village Gate + Etsy.

WHY I LOVE

  • I love sweets { but can’t always eat them } … and these are sweets you wear!
  • I’m way into shades. { Who isn’t? } Every shape, size, + color.
  • I only wear color { wait for it } in my accessories – SPC got color.

WHY FRIENDS LOVE

  • Everything is kawaii! { It’s super freakin’ cute. }
  • HANDMADE. { An entire table of handmade accessories! }
  • You know that statement purse?? { Sweet Poison Cupcake has them. }

WHY YOU LOVE

  • Need a lil’ edge? { Try on a dress or a T. }
  • BRIGHT LIPSTICK. { KleanColor – have some fun! }
  • Bling. { Pizzas, French Fries, Keys + Lockets … oh my. }
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Roll On bracelets are Fair Trade + support women.

PeppermintOwned by designer Tanvi Asher. Peppermint Line. Local + artisan jewelry and accessories. 

WHY I LOVE

  • Down the street. { Ya’ heard. } I could live there.
  • Peppermint Line { True Boutique } designed by Tanvi + made in NYC.
  • Features local artisans { Truth } from Rochester, across the US, + around the world.

WHY FRIENDS LOVE

  • JEWELRY. { Earrings, Necklaces, Bracelets – for under $20. }
  • ROC Items. { Magnets, Ornaments, Necklaces, Rings, Bracelets, Earrings. }
  • Scarves, purses, gloves. { Every last thing a woman’s heart desires. }

WHY YOU LOVE

  • Shop with a Cause. { Fair Trade bracelets support working women. }
  • THERE’S A SHOE ROOM. { With insane good–well-priced–shoes. The walls are sunshine yellow. }
  • Affordable Quality. { Even the super nice things. }
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#ROC the Holiday like these guys.

{ Prismatic Gardens Facebook. To see the one I bought: Check It. }

#roc the holiday

Who’s buying 1 for a friend + another 1 for you?? This Girl! … And I bet you will too. { Go for the It factor. } ♥.

#shoplocalroc.

XO.

Shopping’s More Fun With … Flower City Fashionista!

BESL

+

FLOWER CITY FASHIONISTA

(equals)

#SHOPLOCAL LOVE

{ Hey Guys! I’m happy to announce that BESL is collab-ing with Ms. Jenny Sanzo, The Flower City Fashionista. Read more below! … And all about how I’m sweet-as-punch. (Love this.) }

How excited are you. Because I’m stoked. Jenny is an incredible blogger, businesswoman, stylist, mother, friend, and {duh} fashionista. She’s brought #Roc the likes of:

And #ShopLocal. Jenny’s always been a Shop Local PIC since Day 1, and now…

Jenny’s featuring BESL #ShopLocal posts!

Here’s what you do:

  1. Visit, Read, Subscribe to Flower City Fashionista
  2. Look for #ShopLocal posts from me
  3. Stick around FCF + see what #Rocs
  4. Head on back to BESL + see what pops
  5. #ShopLocal! {Great deal + incredible benefit.}

 In the words of Mrs. Jenny Sanzo herself:

and roc gets more love

to love of + love for the #Roc

#shoplocal

#flowercityfashionista

XO.

The Devil May Care … It’s {almost} Halloween!

{ Even angels come out on Halloween. … And you can wear your lingerie all year long. }

BEWARE

tips + tricks + treats

ALL HALLOWS’ EVE

AWAITS

{ I wrote this post a few days ago + saw this on Instagram yesterday. Make sure to check out Devil May Care’s Halloween Top Drawer for the perfect fit to a Halloween you can sink your teeth into! } 

make your skin crawl … in a sexy way

Halloween in Rochester, NY would not be complete without a nod to Devil May Care Lingerie. After all, what is Halloween without:

  • heedless
  • jovial
  • rakish
  • flirty
  • fun
  • sexy antics?

It’s a funked-up wardrobe, candy addicted, potentially delusional fetish–that’s what. Which is fine. But a little lingerie makes it finer. Whether your costume screams ghoulish, ridiculous, provocative, or silly, it can’t hurt to feel super sleek + sexy + sophisticated beneath it all.

6 tempting picks

  1. BRASALEXA BRA + LASCIVIOUS MILLA BRA – Add a little BDSM + a lot of class {yes, the 2 can co-exist} into your closet + onto your … breasts! {Gasp.} … Note: I’d take any DMC bra.
  2. UNDERWEARPENELOPE GARTER PANTIES – Glam factor, vintage appeal, + practical. Wear them with or without the garters. {Plus – they’re high-waisted. I love high-waisted panties.}
  3. LEGWEARPRETTY POLLY HOUSE OF HOLLAND SUSPENDER HOSE – Perfect costume top-off … and a sophisticated addition to any ensemble. {Confession – I already own a pair in black.}
  4. LOUNGEWEARGAIA WINGS WRAP SHAPEWEAR – Been feeling the vampire vibe lately. This Kris Soonik pleads “Angel,” but I say it’s 100% Sexy. Stealthy. Mysterious. And Vampy.
  5. SHAPEWEAR/SALERYAN BODYSUIT – Deadly beautiful – name cannot possibly describe. “Playboy bunny” reads the description + to that I add: Marie Antoinette, Marilyn Monroe, Angelina Jolie. Unleash your inner firecracker with this devilish red.
  6. MENSBOXER BRIEF – Men celebrate Halloween, too. Though I won’t discriminate, I say the tighter the undergarment the better … check out these microfiber boxer briefs. {And if I’m not mistaken, there might be a hidden message, at least in these Lascivious variety – trick or treat??}

#devilmaycarelingerie | #dmclingerie

Halloween’s a Devil May Care celebration. Don’t leave your skivvies to the last minute. … You never know who has x-ray vision. {Or xxx-ray vision if we’re getting borderline-sleazy.}

#happyhalloween

#devilmaycare

#lingerie

#shoplocal

XO.

 

Which Monster are You?? Vampires, Werewolves, + Witches … oh my.

{ Eve tattoo by Karrah Teague at Lucky Lotus Tattoo.}

WHICH MONSTER

vampires + werewolves + witches, oh my

ARE YOU?

{ I had a migraine this weekend that failed to leave me at peace. It hit in waves + knocked me out several times throughout Friday + Saturday. I missed literally every tip + trick + treat I suggested for this weekend … boo to that … . Well – I did make it to Lux. I also made it to ORBS to celebrate a friend’s new job + Mint Salon for the freshy-fresh on my curls. The weekend wasn’t fully lost, but it did get me thinking about the monster–or monsters–that live inside of me … . }

Folklore + fairytales exist as cautionary tales. Moral + practical guides to life where, the end-game, is: a) fit-in + b) survive. I’m no folklore aficionado. Not even my enthusiasm for Hocus Pocus (full movie guys!!) grants me expert status. But I do know that just as much as they can feed-on our humanity, they actually feed it as well.

Like talismans, folklore + fairytales help us cope + conquer the complex, dark layers of our existence.

So the question remains … which monster are you??

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Lux Lounge – 666 South Avenue.

UNDYING LIFE LESSONS

These simple motifs reveal how folklore translates to daily life lessons … ones that never die.

  1. A Vampire cannot come in unless he or she is invited.
    modern equivalent: Don’t take candy from a stranger.
    translation: Stranger Danger. Don’t invite strangers into your personal space, even if they look innocent, needy, or tempting.
  2. It’s really hard for a Vampire or a Werewolf to control or curb his or her cravings for blood + flesh, but is necessary in order to maintain some semblance of humanity.
    modern equivalent: McDonald’s. Cocaine. Sex.
    translation: DARE. Don’t do drugs–or engage in addictive behaviors–when it risks controlling you.
  3. Witches are devil worshippers and consorts.
    modern equivalent: Woman are winey sluts who cannot be trusted, are disreputable, and unreliable.
    translation: Sexism. It’s pervasive and insidious. It turns entire societies, comprised of men + women + children, against any woman who deviates from societal norms and expectations, especially if this woman is powerful { … or enchanting … }.

monsters + humanity

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Count Barbara – Avoiding daylight.

In very mundane, worldly ways, anyone can relate to all of these monsters. In fact, our monsters are the actual keys to unlocking our humanity.

WE ALL HAVE MONSTERS

Here are a few of my own comparisons.

  1. Vampires
    A. Vampires cannot go into the daylight.
    Me – When I have migraines … daylight destroys me.
    B. Vampires have an insatiable craving for blood.
    Me – I have an insatiable craving for water. My body shuts-down quicker than others when I can’t have it. When I get it, I drink it so fast, it guzzles down my chin and chest. I swear, I can almost sniff it out.
    C. Vampires are strong + sexy + wear dark lipstick.
    Me – Me too.
  2. Werewolves
    A. Werewolves transform every month.
    Me – Every single month, my body doesn’t just change. It transforms. Boobs? I mean, I don’t even recognize them. Then there’s the pain. My insides feel like a corkscrew. I am both bewildered + angry. Every single month.
    B. Werewolves are affected by the moon.
    Me – I have full-on full moon syndrome. That shit makes my life crazy, every single time. {Maybe because I drink so much water, who even knows.}
    C. Werewolves are big dogs. Kind of.
    Me – I love to cuddle + shunggle dogs. They are extra perceptive of my moods.
  3. Witches
    A. Witches use energy to heal.
    Me – I believe in, study, and practice using energy through Chakras, meditation, acupuncture, + yoga. {It works.}
    B. Witches are very intuitive + listen to their primal instincts.
    Me – Everyone should trust their gut. Not listening to your instincts is one of the most dangerous things you can do to yourself.
    C. Witches don’t give a fuck what you think.
    Me – I don’t give a fuck what you think, in the most empowering of ways of course.

Halloween is just 5 days away. Get in touch with your inner-monster before a new soul year begins on All Saints’ Day/Day of the Dead November 1.

#monster

#humanity

XO.

Pre-Halloween is > than Pre-Gaming.

{ I vant to suck your blood. – Finger Lakes Wine: Dr. Konstantin Frank Salmon Run Petit Noir. }

HAPPY

tips + tricks + treats

PRE-HALLOWEEN

{ Halloween is a magical holiday for so many reasons. Including the making of Hocus Pocus, which receives many a-mention on this blog. This year, the bewitching hour befalls a Friday. All will wake from the dead … and become the dead the next day, rest assured. Best part?? Halloween in Rochester – we still celebrate early! So grab your costumes + get yo’ freak on because this weekend proves to be wild. }

ghastly pre-Halloween gasts

WICKED WEEKEND CHOICES

  1. SPECTRAL CARNIVAL: Friday + Saturday. St. Joseph Park {“a piece of local history“}.
  • Family by day.
  • Freaky by night.
  • Incredible artists … follow The Yards on Instagram to get a taste + discover more.

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2. AL SIGL CENTER WALK ABOUT: Saturday. Eastview Mall.

3. FINGER LAKES RESTAURANT WEEK: Ends Sunday. 11 Finger Lakes Restaurants.

  • Lunch + Dinner Pre-Fixe Specials.
  • Local Food – celebrate the harvest!
  • Frighteningly delicious – a great way to try new cuisine at affordable prices … and an incredible excuse to see that Finger Lakes Fall Foliage + landscape!

4. DEVIL’S IN THE DETAILS: Ends November 1. 1975 Gallery.

  • Coincide this exhibit ends on All Saints’ Day?? {I think not.}
  • Devilishly decadent does not begin to describe.
  • 666 or 60+? Like an incantation, the website says it best.

#devilsinthedetails

5. LUX LOUNGEOn Going. South Wedge – 666 South Ave.

  • Located at 666 South Ave. So. “Let your freak flag fly.”
  • Chillest outdoor scene in Roc – picnic tables + hammock, penis stool + ring toss, fire pit + once I roasted hot dogs and marshmallows on it … creepy lady in the window. {Just go.}
  • Incredible art. Last time I was there – Shawnee Hill was up. Just insane.

let’s all raise hell this weekend

Are you not as excited as I that this year, Halloween is a week-long celebration. It’s phantasmic.

#happyhalloween

#eatlocal

#candycorns

#drinklocal {not blood}

#artlocal

XO.