Live Your Best Life: How To Be You + Be Free.

{ Manhattan Square Park in Rochester, NY at Party in the Park, Thursday, 6/23. }

BE YOU

live your best life.

BE FREE.

Freedom is many things. It is an innate right, + it is incredibly oppressed. It is sought after, + it is sabotaged. It is died for, + it gives life. It is exciting, + it is terrifying. Freedom is elusive. Freedom is precious. Freedom is essential to living our best lives. Freedom should be as natural as it is innate. But Freedom, is not. Thankfully, given the right circumstances, Freedom is attainable.

Because even when we live in “lands of The Free,” our own lifestyles, emotions, thoughts, actions, relationships tear this freedom down, instead of reinforcing it. Building it up.

I’d like to share 3 tips for how I am discovering + uncovering my own freedom.

trauma can happen, + it does not have to control our freedom.

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Walking to Party in the Park Solo at the newly opened Inner Loop, Rochester, NY.

Helllll nah, I was not always this free. The freedom I speak of in this post? It’s been a lifetime in the making. Just recently, it’s truly spread its wings. You’re going to have to wait for the publication of my memoir{s} before fully understanding the trials + tribulations I have endured throughout my life. For now, I’m going to highlight 3 choice experiences.

The goal is to show you that trauma can happen, and it does not have to control our freedom.

1. Food By Oppression. I started counting calories around 1997, when I in the 7th grade. This evolved into carefully portioning-out my food. About 2004, the Disordered Eating manifested into an Eating Disorder my sophomore year of college. It wasn’t until 2008, when I had a major mental breakdown my 2nd semester studying graduate school at Columbia University, that I fully began to heal.

  • how does this limit freedom? Your mind, body, + soul are trapped in a set of beliefs + actions that prevent it from enjoying everything. You are riddled by guilt, shame, fear, self-hate, + a slew of other deamons that have 0 place in your heart + soul.
  • how am I doing now? Much better. I attribute this to therapy and lots + lots + lots of work on self-love. As well as the mental breakdown, because tbh y’all, my mind started itself back-up in “safe mode.” I know not all of us are lucky enough { see what I did there } to endure a mental breakdown. But for me, it truly was a beautiful thing.

2. Assaulted + Charged with Assault. April 20, 2012 I went to the Fun. concert at an establishment I will not name here, but one that has a past riddled with sketch + shade. I was with friends. Not doing drugs. I’d been drinking, but we also took a cab, + I was 27, so. Unfortunately, I’d been separated from my friends the majority of the night. Long-story-short, by the night’s end, as the concert let out, I was afraid + alone + tiny skirmishes started to break-out. That’s when a huge man came up behind me, grabbed me, + started dragging me back into the hall. I panicked. I 100% believe I was going to be raped. I struggled. Another man accosted me from the side. They beat the shit out of me. I felt excited to see the police standing before me. Until the police threw me to the ground, yanked my arms akimbo behind my back, + shoved my head through the back of a cop car. I’d been assaulted by 2 bouncers who then charged me with 3rd degree assault. I’d just been hired into a new job the day before. I lost that job. I was also per diem substitute teaching at the time. Not only did I lose those 2 teaching jobs, but apparently, when HR in education reads — 3rd Degree Assault { b/c who really knows which is worse, 1st or 3rd } — they call you up, personally, to chew-you out, as well as write you very mean letters. I spent my full-savings on a lawyer. When the DA, who was also a young woman, saw the pictures I documented of my bruises + contusions, she assured me that, under no circumstances, would I be charged. The bouncer who pressed charges never showed-up to court. The establishment refused to furnish video footage. I endured 3 separate court appearances across the next 5 months before I was cleared.

  • how does this limit freedom? It makes you feel unsafe everywhere you go. It makes you feel like you have 0 right to be anywhere. It makes you feel you will be accosted, accused, charged, fired, ridiculed, + drained of all your money, even when you do nothing wrong. It seriously tugs on those Victim strings.
  • how am I doing now? Recently, much, much better. I have transformed . { Because of the tips I promise I’m about to share! }. But I can say it still affects me. In October, 2015, I saw a Joywave concert at Anthology. I don’t consider myself to have PTSD, but for whatever reason, 3 years later, I flashed back to the old venue. My panic attacks where so severe that I could no longer recognizes people’s faces. I felt too scared + vulnerable to walk home alone or to even call a cab. That’s what fear does. It takes away all of our choices + all of our options.
    • { post-edit} … And now — today this day, over 1 year later — instead asking — Hey, were you okay? — I just get a lot of passive-aggressive, underhanded comments + side glances. { You know who you are. } That makes you look insecure + pretty ignorant, quite frankly. Not me.

3. Creep Factor. I cannot even begin to describe to you the number of creeps I’ve encountered. What’s more, these 3 experiences pale in comparison to other stuff I’ve endured. Here we go: 1) My 1st semester in NYC 2007, I went on a date with this guy who very seriously engaged me in intimidation tactics. He even carried a duffle bag that he said was filled with batting practice equipment. When I told him he could not come back to my apartment, he followed me into the subway and yelled at me the whole time as if we were long-lost lovers. 2) Around 2012, a UR PhD student took me on a date one summer. I wasn’t feeling the vibe, but one night he still insisted on walking me home. When I refused to let him in, he pressured me by reminding me how nice it was he walked me home in the 90 degree heat + insisted I owe him a glass of water: that I must let him inside. He did not get a glass of water. 3) Most recently, I walked down Goodman Street one weekend night about 1 month ago. I was nearing Monroe Ave between Park + Monroe. A younger guy crossed the street. We made eye-contact + said a simple hi. He walked-on, only to double-back, slap / grab my ass, thereby hiking-up the hemline to my underwear. He then ran away.

  • how does this limit freedom? Feeling unsafe everywhere, at every time of day. Not being able to do what you want or go where you want when you want to. Having to be resilient enough to shrug-off people’s judgements when they make horribly base assumptions, which really reinforces their ignorance, about what you were wearing + what you said, etc.
  • how am I doing now? Almost 0 fear. In a responsible way. { See how I had to qualify that. } How was I a few months back? A mess. I work with the public day-in, day-out. It used to be that 1 wrong look from a client sent me shame spiraling. Well, no more.

be well. be free.
trust yourself. trust your life.

I truly am living the best life I know, right now, in this moment. This past week I socialized with friends, I went to a bar by myself to watch the Copa game — unafraid + uncaring of others’ judgements — and I even let myself shoot a few hoops at 1AM { gasp! } on a Wednesday as I walked back to my apartment from Good Luck. My point? I finally, finally, have the framework + infrastructure to do what I want, when I want. I trust myself. I trust my life. That is freedom. Here’s how to do it:

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Playing hoops solo at the Merriman St. Playground around 1AM on Wednesday.

I finally have the framework + infrastructure to do what I want, when I want.

1. No Judgement. At the root of all of this — we have to stop judging ourselves. Why? Because only when we self-love { which means being judgement-free }, can we make the best, most pure choices for ourselves.

  • counterpoint: Should every woman walk alone to a bar or Party in the Park or shoot hoops at a city park at 1AM? No. Duh. Absolutely not. Just as every woman shouldn’t get married or have babies or backpack the world alone.
  • point: We have to be comfortable + confident making our best decisions given each moment + circumstance. We are capable of this.
  • recommendation: Read The 4 Agreements. Practice it as you read. And then read the Companion Book. Practice that, too. Really, truly practice it. Live it.

feed your feelings healthy “foods” / thoughts.

2. Practice Every Damn Day. People go to the gym regularly. People make it a habit to eat healthy. No one questions this. People talk about this every single day, all of the time. So practice doing these same healthy, holistic habits with your mind + soul. Some of my favorites:

  • recommendations:
    • Sing in the car. Unabashedly! Loudly! Freely! If you cannot express yourself freely while driving in your own, separate vessel … then when can you be free. Anyone else who is near you is driving by, anyway. They are gone from your lives forever. Be free. Sing.
    • Journal. It is not a 4-letter word, frands. Quite literally. It is a very simple practice.
      • Make lists.
      • Draw pictures.
      • Vent.
      • At the very least, practice gratitude.

Really pissed about something? Make a Gratitude List. It does not mean that you are not allowed to be pissed or upset! Yes, you are. Feel. Feel everything. Feel your full range of emotions. What it does mean is you still get to feed yourself positivity, even when you are negative.

  • Toast Yourself. Fill your cup with milk, or whatever, Cheers to you. Acknowledge what you have accomplished. Celebrate it. Big or small.
  • Smile at Yourself. Step 1) Look in the mirror. Step 2) Smile. Optional) Put your hands on your hips, breathe deep, peel those lips. Smile. Recommended) Do a butt-wiggle. Bonus points?? Compliment yourself.

Every single time you look in that mirror, say something nice. You said something critical, too? No worries. Let that go. Follow-it-up by saying something nice. 

if you cannot express yourself freely, while driving in your own separate vessel … then when can you be free?

3. Root Yourself. This is a bit higher level, + that’s why it’s #3. Progression. What is Rooting Yourself?? It is taking ourselves from all of the assumptions + what-if’s. It is coming back to our minds, our bodies, our true light, + our present moment. Rooting Yourself is placing yourself within the present moment.

  • recommendations:
    • Practice Mindfulness. I talk about it here. You can start by reading it here. Very simple. Very solid. Very whole.
    • Practice Chakra Healing. This has been 1 of the most transformational elements of my life these past few months. I really enjoy the affirmations + information on this website. When I am stressed or fearful, questioning or critical, I quiet that destruction + replace it with the wholesome “food” of chakra affirmations.
    • Affirmations. Chakras not your thing? Come up with your own phrases to say over + over + over again. Re-hone and refocus. Quiet + heal.
    • Be a Kid. Walk barefoot in the grass. This is very healing + rooting. If you practice chakra healing, you know this balances the Root { grounding } + the Heart { childlike spirit + connection with nature } Chakras. By being a kid, we honor + practice our most root freedom.

Swing on a swing. Play a sport. Go to a park. Do bounce ball soccer or trampoline exercises. Climb a rock wall or play some volleyball. In Rochester, alone, there are a million ways to honor your inner-kid.

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Swimming in Lake Ontario at Charlotte Beach, 1 of my favorite places to get away + go alone.

Thank you for taking the time to read with me + about my experiences today. I’d love to continue this conversation + hear what you guys have to say! My thanks for your energy.

#bewell.

#belocal.

#befree.

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Shop Like an Urban Local: Farmer’s Market Tips You Don’t Know … Yet.

{ What are your Saturday plans?! Check out your local Public Market + come back with a haul like this. Shout out to Heather Saffer + her frosting empire, better known as Dollop Frosting! }

FARMER’S MARKETS

The Rochester. Public. Market.

AND EVERYTHING YOU DON’T KNOW.

I think by now — in this age of Farm-to-Table, Save Money, + Organic/Local Eating — we all know:

It’s the whole: haggle, baggle { bring your own tote }, shop around, find a tomato-guy spiel. Done + done. So whether you’re an O.G. of the underground or a Late Bloomer, I’m going to share some tips you might not know.

The pay-off?
Guaranteed, you will have more fun + find more value.
You will become 1 with the experience of your local Public and/or Farmer’s Market
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Last Saturday, I walked to the Rochester Public Market. I bought over 1 lb of locally raised ground beef, 1 dozen locally raised free range eggs, 5 lemons, 1 bunch of kale, 1 pint of cherries, 4 sweet potatoes, 1 eggplant, + I had a free tasting of locally made O’Begley’s whiskey … all for $23. Best part? I made friends + had an adventure doing it. Here’s how:

  1. Off the Beaten Path. Take the Road Less Traveled. Urban living, or not, chances are most of us live within walking distance to our local farmer’s markets. If so, don’t just walk — Explore.
    • Live a Little. I live in the NOTA section of Rochester, which means I’m probably .5 miles away from at least 5 ways to get to the Rochester Public Market. Taking the straight-and-narrow is just too damn bland.
    • Free Stuff. Last Saturday, I discovered 2 different Little Free Libraries on 2 different side streets. I even took a book!
    • Pretty Sites. I also imbibed the sites of quirky houses, colorful gardens, + cute cobblestone paths.
  2. Don’t be a Wallflower. Be Part of the Community. At the Public Market, you are family. Shoppers, farmers, sellers, buyers: it’s one big family festival of sights + sounds, tastes + smells.
    • Step Out. Crowds can overwhelm me, so last Saturday I was very guarded at first. Which is just fine! But so many cool things happened once I opened my face to the sun.
    • Talk to Strangers. I complimented a young lady on her gorgeous locks. As I walked away, she shouted to back to compliment my crazy curls! We both felt thrilled. Right after, another passerby chimed-in — That was really nice! — when she saw me pick up a stray piece of litter that swooped in front of my feet. Talk about friendly.
    • Support our Troops + Community. On the way out, I met a Vet who was giving away paper Poppy’s in request for a donation. He was sweet, funny, + he served our country. What can be more fulfilling than that?
  3. Be Curious, Not Cheap. You Don’t Always Have to HaggleThat is right. You don’t. Especially if you don’t feel comfortable, and especially if prices are already super low. Instead …
    • No Middle Man. Ask questions. Did you know that the woman who supplies all of Wegmans with their eggs has a stand at the Public Market?? Yup. She and her 700,000 { ! } chickens sell lots of eggs, including free-range, for near-half the price you’d find at the super market.
    • Local Meat. Same story for local meat from local farms. After asking some questions on quality, locality, and prices from the people at Heiden Valley Farms, I left with 1 fresh package of never-frozen, locally raised 80/20 ground beef. At these prices, it should be the only type of meat I eat. { Life goals. }
    • Seasonal Produce. Not every single last fruit + veg at your local public/farmer’s market will be from your surrounding area. And that’s okay! But, if you ask the right questions — you’ll discover that this California Kale will soon { 1 month } be replaced by locally grown NYS kale that was recently planted.
  4. Enjoy Yourself. Make Grocery Shopping Fun. The Rochester Public Market can do this. And yours can too. In fact, most public markets are more like festivals than they are chores. That’s because:
    • Brunch. You can grab gourmet, fresh coffee along with breakfast sandwiches and other brunch dishes for quick + for cheap.
    • Dine Solo. It’s super easy to still have a meal and some downtime, even when you are alone. Last Saturday, I grabbed a latte + a chair so I could sit + read before beginning my shopping spree.
    • Free Tastings. If your market is anything like ours’ here in Rochester, there’s going to be wine + liquor, and it’s going to be free. This past Saturday I tasted O’Begley’s locally made Poitin + Whiskey for the 1st time. It was great. And it was cool to learn about the product from the distiller, himself!

If you’re going to Shop Local, might as well do it like a Local. Which means laying down roots, having fun even if there’s no sun, falling in love with your City and Community, + saving a ton of green.

#RochesterPublicMarket.

#shoplocal.

Shop Local Rochester: Gifts for Friends { And for You! }

{ Give great gifts. And make them look great! Gift box from Sweet Poison Cupcake. }

SAVE MONEY

one for you

SHOP LOCAL

{ one for me, too. }

LOOK GOOD, FEEL GOOD

#shoplocalroc

{ Between sales, festivals + shows, dope merch, and increased exposure to quality stores + boutiques … shopping local for the holidays is hard! … On your conscience. When shopping local, I say: grab 1 for your family or friend + (at least) 1 for you, too. With these 3 spots – you can. }

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Bath + Body – from The Alternative Fair!

{ Compliments of Shandi Rine. }

Pssst. Did you know there’s a secret to buying the best gifts? It’s the Won’t-Buy-It-For-Myself factor. And it’s powerful! Check it:

  • Ever see something while shopping for yourself + think – YES. But you never buy it.
  • Even better, you say – That’d be a perfect gift for me! { You know you have. }

The It Factor. That’s exactly what these boutiques + artisan have and are. The pieces + items that your family + friends always want, but never buy. Think about it:

  • You find a $20 necklace but don’t want to shell-out the fancy cocktail money? You say – Maybe next time.
  • You gravitate toward seasonal accessories + think – I love it! But what if I don’t wear it next year?
  • What about the piece that enhances your surroundings? – It’s not something I need, you say.

ssshh:
this is what makes a gift giver great!

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#ShopLocal. Cardigan – Peppermint. Tank – Second Storie. Jewelry – Fahsye, The Knotty Owl, Erica Bello.

The It Factor is the Won’t-Buy-It-For-Myself factor. And that’s what makes a gift giver great! When you can identify that 1 gift a friend really loves, but would never buy herself – buy it. Trickiest thing? Not buying one for yourself, too!

fear not!
guilt-free shopping

At these 3 #ShopLocal spots in #Roc – you will find It factor gifts. Great thing? They’re so affordable … you buy something for you, too! { Guilt. Free. }

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Prismatic Gardens by Sigriet Ferrer.

Gifts for Friends { And for You! }

Prismatic GardensOwned by Sigriet Ferrer. Sold at Peppermint, pop-up shops, + online at Etsy!

WHY I LOVE

  • I kill plants. { Eek! } These are EASY to care for.
  • I’m bad at decorating. { Yikes. } These are GORGEOUS.
  • I dig the vibe. { Yes. } Prismatic Gardens says – “A natural synergy within elements.”

WHY FRIENDS LOVE

  • They want plants. { But won’t buy them. }
  • THEY COME WITH DINOSAURS! { Enchanting + one-of-a-kind. }
  • It’s not another bamboo plant. { Be original. }

WHY YOU LOVE

  • They’re flipping adorable. { Look at those little buds. }
  • Sir Rocha SaysYou can hang rings on them! { Double-duty. }
  • LOW MAINTENANCE. { Mine doesn’t even ever have to be watered! }
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My Collection. Box + Cupcake ring are handmade!

Sweet Poison CupcakeOwned by Tempest Paige. Handmade goods! Store at Village Gate + Etsy.

WHY I LOVE

  • I love sweets { but can’t always eat them } … and these are sweets you wear!
  • I’m way into shades. { Who isn’t? } Every shape, size, + color.
  • I only wear color { wait for it } in my accessories – SPC got color.

WHY FRIENDS LOVE

  • Everything is kawaii! { It’s super freakin’ cute. }
  • HANDMADE. { An entire table of handmade accessories! }
  • You know that statement purse?? { Sweet Poison Cupcake has them. }

WHY YOU LOVE

  • Need a lil’ edge? { Try on a dress or a T. }
  • BRIGHT LIPSTICK. { KleanColor – have some fun! }
  • Bling. { Pizzas, French Fries, Keys + Lockets … oh my. }
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Roll On bracelets are Fair Trade + support women.

PeppermintOwned by designer Tanvi Asher. Peppermint Line. Local + artisan jewelry and accessories. 

WHY I LOVE

  • Down the street. { Ya’ heard. } I could live there.
  • Peppermint Line { True Boutique } designed by Tanvi + made in NYC.
  • Features local artisans { Truth } from Rochester, across the US, + around the world.

WHY FRIENDS LOVE

  • JEWELRY. { Earrings, Necklaces, Bracelets – for under $20. }
  • ROC Items. { Magnets, Ornaments, Necklaces, Rings, Bracelets, Earrings. }
  • Scarves, purses, gloves. { Every last thing a woman’s heart desires. }

WHY YOU LOVE

  • Shop with a Cause. { Fair Trade bracelets support working women. }
  • THERE’S A SHOE ROOM. { With insane good–well-priced–shoes. The walls are sunshine yellow. }
  • Affordable Quality. { Even the super nice things. }
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#ROC the Holiday like these guys.

{ Prismatic Gardens Facebook. To see the one I bought: Check It. }

#roc the holiday

Who’s buying 1 for a friend + another 1 for you?? This Girl! … And I bet you will too. { Go for the It factor. } ♥.

#shoplocalroc.

XO.

Shop Local Rochester: Splurge + Save and Have a Thrifty Holiday.

{ Thrifted! Red velvet vintage dress from Treasure Trove Vintage on Park Avenue. }

GET

look good

THRIFTY

feel good

THIS HOLIDAY

#shoplocalroc

{ We have to do something for ourselves. Especially during the holidays. And we still want to save time + money, feel festive + fabulous! That’s why thrifty shopping in your holiday routine spices up the season, adds value to your time and money, + lets you do you. Something fierce. }

Get Thrifty.

HEART
And by heart, I mean appearance.

Appearance is the outward expression of our hearts. These 3 looks + 3 thrifty shopping spots show you how to save + feel flippin fancy while doing it.

#PROTIP: “Vintage” is defined as 20 years back. { 1994 is vintage! }

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Rest of my dress! Adorable back { butt } bow. (Not pictured.)

THE LOOK: MAD MEN – Pin-Up. Vintage Boutique.

WHY VINTAGE

  1. Quality. Vintage is higher quality. Better fit. Better wear. Bottom line.
  2. Affordable. The imitation is too expensive! Especially if you seek quality comparable to the original.
  3. Trend Factor. You want to look great, but you don’t want to go crazy on some trend you might never wear again. These pieces have stood the test of time for a reason! And, you can afford to buy more than one or get fancy with all the fixin’s.

THE PLACE

  • Treasure Trove Vintage: 121 Park Avenue, Suite 10 (Facing Meigs Street)
    • Dresses + Jewelry
    • Coats + Fur Coats
    • Jackets + Blazers
    • Hats + Gloves
    • Boots + Heels

{ BONUS: Owner, Morgan DeLapa, walks-the-walk, talks-the-talk, + can dish really sweet make-up recommendations! }

Louboutin at Panache.

Louboutin at Panache.

THE LOOK: BEYONCE / OLD MONEY – Glam. Consignment Shop.

WHY CONSIGNED

  1. Designer. Champagne tastes on a { fancy } beer budget? Panache accommodates + dazzles.
  2. Variety. Row upon row upon row of flat, wedge, heel, boot; fur coat, blazer, shurg; wristlet, clutch, bag. It’s never-ending .. and all so inviting!
  3. Fashion. Fashionista’s paradise. Whether you like vintage, disco, ’90’s, or now – Panache has your number. { Flower City Fashionista would know! }

THE PLACE 

{ BONUS: Designer-Designer labels. We’re talking Christian Louboutin, Manolo Blahnik, Coach … you name it. }

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Brand name wrap dresses from VOA on Lake Avenue.

THE LOOK: STREET STYLETrendyThrift Store.

WHY THRIFT

  1. Quality. Thrift stores don’t take garbage. Know what you’re looking for, keep an open mind, + you will find gems that you boast about the rest of your known life.
  2. Get the Look. Create 3-5 new looks, easily, for less than the price of 1 at retail. Who doesn’t want a new holiday: skirt + top, dress + shrug, pant + blouse with matching shoe + bag for each?? With styles that cater specifically to the look you want.
  3. Price. Pay attention to tag sales + deals of the day so you know how to optimizes these options + still capture rock bottom prices.

THE PLACE 

{ BONUS: $.89 of EVERY DOLLAR goes toward VOA initiatives like the VOA Children’s Center + various Community Outreach. … Plus they have crazy low prices + incredible sales. }

OTHER GREAT SHOPS:

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With bff Laura (nee Reardon) Wagner, in 1950s handmade replica Bette Davis dress from film “All About Eve.”

#PROTIP: Don’t be scared to purchase gifts at consignment, vintage, + thrift stores.

HOME
Home is where the heart is … make it look good + feel good!

There are innumerable reasons I shop thrift for home goods + wares. And even more for why we all should thrift for holiday home goods + wares. Here are my top 3 reasons + spots:

Cheers! Wine glasses from Panache.

Cheers! … with a hint of charm. Wine glasses from Panache.

KITCHEN UTENSILS

  1. Serving Spoons. Potato Masher. Tea Kettle. These are just some items I find at almost every thrift store I go to.
  2. Bye-Bye Big Box. Why go to a big-box when you can easily find what you need, for less?
  3. The Character Factor. Come on. Who doesn’t want a story behind their kitchen ware??

{ BONUS: Check-out any local thrift store. One of my favorites is Ruly on Monroe Ave. }

  • Ruly: 270 Monroe Avenue (Between Union + Alexander)

FESTIVE DISH WARE + GLASSES

  1. Unique. Find glasses + mugs, place settings + cake plates that you just won’t find anywhere else.
  2. Host + Gift. What better way to decorate a holiday table than to allow guests to take home their glasses at the end of the eve?
  3. Mix + Match. Get creative with your decor when you can pair several different pieces for an occasion with your unique stamp.

{ BONUS: Panache has a Home + Design store, too! … With 3 designers who curate. }

STATEMENT PIECES

  1. One Time + Timeless. You don’t have to feel guilt about using these pieces just once! Go crazy + buy the trendy piece. Or, at the same time, find a classic vase or candle holder + relish that it can be used any time of year or every holiday season.
  2. Love Each Room. Deck the halls, y’all. All of them. No need to feel proud about just the mantle over the fireplace or just the “Christmas Tree Room.” Get your deck on the whole house through!
  3. Get a Lil’ Funky. It’s okay to experiment. Add a pop of color with a thrift store pieces – and the fear associated with “failing” completely melts away. It’s true.

{ BONUS: Hidden gems exist. Rochester has them … and I also love Canandaigua! }

  • Main Street: My fav antique shop closed! (But Main St. Canandaigua has some true gems.)
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Brande new glass ornaments from Panache. Great for party favors!

be merry, be bright

Make a Pledge to You. Treat yourself this holiday. And give back to your community. This can be your Shop Local Rochester pledge!

#getthrifty

#roc the holiday

#shoplocalroc

XO.

Shop Local Rochester: Man’s Guide to Gift Giving { Fahsye }

{ Fahsye even gift wraps complimentary! }

HEY BOYS

fahsye

LET’S KEEP THIS

north winton neighborhood

SIMPLE

{ Ladies. Gentlemen. Keep holiday gift giving simple this season. And still buy bomb gifts. Gifts that earn you G status: gloating-rights, glowing praises, + greatest boyfriend/husband/son/brother/dad of the year. … #ROC the holiday. }

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Five reasons + 5 plays, for every gift-giving scenario.

what’s a guy to do?

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FAHSYE.

High Five – { Check out Nov/Dec (585) Mag with an article I wrote on Fahsye! }

  1. They have everything. You can’t NOT find a gift … for everyone on your list.
  2. Gifts are quality. From Thai Sterling Silver to handmade, handcrafted items.
  3. Gifts are affordable. Need a high-end gift but can’t break-the-bank? Fahsye.
  4. Gifts are unique. Handmade items that cannot be found elsewhere + hand selected items imported from Thailand … that also cannot be found elsewhere.
  5. Location. Centrally located! Corner of North Winton + Blossom. And next to Mayer’s Hardware … so there’s that.

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hit-up 1 spot + make it count

Fahsye is 100% a winning play. It’s a 1 stop spot that gets you in + out without a hassle!

  • Unlike department stores, Fahsye is 1 room. { You can’t get lost. }
  • Unlike the mall … shopping at Fahsye is relaxing! { I never want to leave. }
  • It’s near CVS, Mayer’s Hardware, and a number of restaurants/eateries including Jim’s + Balsam Bagels. { Bonus. }

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the male perspective

Best part? Shop manager + real estate agent, Rich Tyson, is on-hand to lend the male perspective. I promise you, dudes – you’ll feel at home.

“affordable, + a really high end look”
-Fon, owner of Fahsye

Five ways to shop Fahsye this holiday season? Here we go!

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CAN’T GO WRONG – Shopping for mom, your grandmother, or your girlfriend … you can only go right.

  • Thai Sterling Silver
  • David Yurman-esque { classic, on-trend, affordable }
  • Let 1 piece stand alone, buy a set, or mix-and-match … you cannot go wrong.

If you’re pressed for time, at a loss, + really want to bring home a meaningful and beautiful gift … look no further than the high-end, reasonably priced sterling silver at Fahsye.

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GO TO – Fun, trendy, whimsical, and on-point … these crowd pleasers get people talking.

  • Handmade for a handcrafted, unique look
  • Less Expensive { starting around $15! }
  • ROC jewelry – handmade, at every price point

You know that really picky girlfriend? Pick up one of these treasures. … You’ll thank me.

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IMPRESS – Feeing more adventuresome? But still want it to be a sure-bet…

  • Scarves – classic, elegant, whimsical, warm, + on-trend { chicks love scarves }
  • Unique – handmade jewelry from Thailand that cannot be found elsewhere
  • ROC jewelry – share a piece of Rochester history + nostalgia with one-of-a kind designs

Showing-off when gift giving can backfire. Not with these selections! Plus, what’s more impressive than looking like you’ve barely even tried … .

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ONE STOP – Shop for everyone this holiday at Fahsye.

  • Men – skinny ties, silk ties … make you look good ties
  • Mom + Child – barrettes, key rings, chic diaper bags
  • Stocking Stuffers! – slippers, lip stick cases, accessories

Skip the mall. Skip the department store. Fahsye is your 1-stop-shop.

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FON’S PICKSLike trying the chef’s favorite dish when you can’t decide, focusing on these items handpicked by owner + jewelry maker, Fon, is a home run.

  • Handmade – There’s something elusively everlasting about one-of-a-kind, handcrafted jewelry that cannot be found anywhere else. { Get on that. }
  • Seasonal – Snowflake earrings. They’re precious +, in upstate NY, they help us love the snow just a little bit more. { Every bit counts. }
  • Trend – Druzy! Fahsye carries real druzy + faux for all price-points and gift giving occasions. Druzy is both elegant + street smart – it compliments and completes any look. { It’s good. }

What’s more romantic than buying a one-of-a-kind, handcrafted sentiment?? Answer – Nothing.

 

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ring me

Here’s what you need to know about Fahsye the next coming weeks!

  1. Black Friday – 11/28: Deals! Perfect day to get out there + shop: 11AM – 7PM.
  2. Small Business Saturday – 11/29: Give Away! Support local business + great savings: 12 – 5PM.
  3. Verona Street Animal Society – Holiday Wish List Drive: donate to the animals!
  4. North Winton Village Holiday Open House – 12/11: Lots of fun + special offers! 5PM – 8PM

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Guys – do the right thing. Shop at Fahsye for your holiday gifts!

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#handmade

#ROC

#shoplocalroc

XO.